Relationships and Psoriasis

Do you have anxiety thinking about having relationships with while living with psoriasis? Did you know that most of us have doubts? It's a true story! Relationships cause us to evaluate ourselves and think about how others view us. Nervousness just seeps in thinking about that last statement.

Questions creep in like... Am I good enough? Will anyone like me? Will my psoriasis scare people away? Do people see me or just my skin? Will I have any friends? What about romance? Will I end up completely alone in life?

Living with psoriasis can cause a lot of anxiety

Having psoriasis can definitely cause me to have anxiety! If you have asked these questions to yourself before, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! It is NORMAL to ask these questions. People by nature are always noticing what seems to be the normal. Perception of yourself and how you are viewed varies. When people have something different they automatically assume that different is viewed as negative. A strong person eventually realizes that different is not bad but unique. A reason to celebrate individuality.

Am I good enough?

You as an individual will always be good enough! There is no one else in the whole world who could be you! Your story is about you. Only you can tell that story. You do not need to have anyone else's approval! Give yourself some love. You deserve to make yourself happy!

Will anyone like me?

This question has two answers: Yes, you will be liked as long as you accept yourself! Liking yourself helps you to be liked by others. Having confidence in the fact that you have done nothing to warrant others not liking you. You have a skin disease that you most likely didn't know you had or were going to get. If others are this shallow they do not need to be a friend.

Will my psoriasis scare people away?

If your psoriasis scares people away, then they most likely were not wanting to be in a relationship. People who care invest their time in getting to know you. They want to understand what you have, what it is? How to help? Caring people will support and be there for you.

Do people see me or just my skin?

People may notice your skin. They may ask questions. Some people may even want to clarify things that they have heard or might know. This can be a great time to open up and discuss the "red spot" in the room. Sometimes I have found that seeing your skin is about wondering! While only seeing your skin is about fear! Those who make seeing your skin uncomfortable are the ones uncomfortable with themselves. If people choose to only see your skin they are showing selfishness by closing themselves off to you. Becoming closed off is like shutting the door on knowing you.

Will I have any friends?

Absolutely, in fact you have come here to read this article. This site is full of friendly people who want to help. Feel free to reach out. In fact I am glad to meet you! I already consider you a potential friend! Not everyone in the world is close minded. Most folks are as nervous as you are to say hello. Take a chance. Say hello!

What about romance?

Romance is the nest step to friendships! Learning to be confident in yourself, saying those first hello's often leads to the rest! Becoming comfortable with others is what starts the keys to relationships. Being patient, taking time to talk and get to know someone is what helps you to learn about each other. Relationships are different levels of caring for others and those cares being returned. Romance comes into play when finding the person who wants to be with you is the person you want to be with. It should be natural. You should both be able to support and promote each other. Fun, caring, trust are all words that lead to LOVE.

Will I end up completely alone in life?

Though these things have happened odds are you will not be alone! There is a deep fear in people who are unsure of themselves that believe they will be alone. My suggestion is look at what that mean for you? What are you worried about? Is it something that we have discussed here? My guess is it might be. Remember you read this article. I wrote it and am sharing it with you. That means you are NOT ALONE.