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Managing the load

I don't pretend to be any kind of zen personality.

I am not going to smugly tell anyone how I came to finally relax and let go, because that's just unrealistic rubbish.

If you are prone to overthinking and often find yourself worrying about the most unlikely scenarios at 3am, we'd probably get on quite well.

If we were brave enough to get talking that is.

But taking a step back from my constant treadmill schedule this year has allowed me to recognise the bits that were really causing me the most stress and upset, and where possible, cut it out or delegate these to others.

For example, I love shopping and cooking but on days when it is impossible for me, I no longer stress about the possibly less healthy dinner that my husband will make.
I'm just grateful for the help.

And that is the answer for me.

Psoriatic arthritis is a chronically frustrating and painful condition and will be forever if I think of it as a battle.

Now I can't use stairs nearly as much as I can't fly but I am forever grateful for an attitude of gratitude, forbearance and patience, which I think I would have cultivated less without Psoriasis or arthritis.
I am excellent at empathising with others and providing support for others using the strengths I do have.
I also appreciate the skills and strengths of others.

I can't work anymore but it does mean I can always be there when my children need me.

Yes there are bad days still but recognising that its ok to rest or to ask for help has changed my mind set.

Now we are relocating from England to Wales in 2 months!
A massive thing for me, I last moved house age 12 and have never relocated in my life!

A year or 2 ago I would be panicking about every single possibility, however ridiculous that may be.
Now, although I am still worrying, its much less than before.
I am much more able to let go a little and allow others to help out when I need to.

Plus I'm even allowing myself to be excited about the possibilities too!

Please share any strategies that have helped you manage your worries or issues around youe condition, or any big scary life changes where you succeeded with when you thought you couldn't!

  1. Hi , thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. You are such an inspiration! I love how positive your mindset is, that is so important with helping to accept and stay calm with whatever life throws at us. I hope you hear back from other members with their journeys. We are so glad you are a part of our community. Jill, team member

    1. thank you, I'm blushing 😂

  2. Hi , I so enjoyed reading your post. I have been trying to work on being more grateful - your words were a very welcome reminder to keep at it. I did start practicing mindfulness a year or two ago and that did seem to help, but I've kind of dropped off doing that... I need to get back at it because I'm not naturally very good at managing stress.

    Wishing you the very best for your upcoming move. I hope it goes smoothly and you settle into your new place well. I'm in England too. I imagine Wales will be lovely!! Please keep us updated on how the move is going if you can. We'll be thinking of you! -Catherine, Community Moderator

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